If you're the type of person who searches the internet for articles like this, it's probably safe to assume that you have love, not lust, on your mind. Love is a priority for you, both for yourself and those close to you. However, not everyone prioritizes love or considers it crucial for finding happiness and fulfillment.
But it's safe to say that no one would turn down the idea of a happy-ever-after fairy tale ending. When presented with the opportunity, most people want to pursue a happy ending. So, how can we be sure when the opportunity to pursue love in our lives is real? How do we avoid falling into a trap that will eventually emotionally destroy us?
The truth is, we often blind ourselves to the red flags present in early relationships. When we're desperate for love to work, we may overlook the fact that we're in a relationship built on lust, not love. It's easy to confuse the two because, on the surface, they can feel similar. Both emotions can be intense, passionate, and comforting. However, there are distinct differences between the two that we must be aware of.
According to leading experts in love and relationships, love is not something that can be manifested out of nothing. It requires effort and conscious thought. Lust, on the other hand, is more uncontrollable. It's either there or not. The big difference lies in the depth and layers of love compared to lust. So, how can we determine if our relationship is built on love or lust? Here are some signs to look out for:
1. Your partner is taking things really fast in the relationship.
This is a clear sign that it's all about lust. Real love takes time to develop. It's like a fine wine that gets better with age. You need to give it time to grow naturally. Love can't be instant.
2. You’re getting sore from all of the sex.
When sex becomes too frequent and intense, to the point where it affects your physical well-being, it may be a sign that sex is overshadowing other aspects of your life. Sex should enrich your relationship, not consume it entirely.
3. Your partner never texts you back when you just want to talk.
There will be times when you want to have genuine conversations and connect with your partner on a deeper level. If they don't make themselves available or show interest in these moments, it indicates that it's all about lust.
4. You don’t really know anything deep or intimate about them.
Beyond the physical aspect, you don't really know much about them. They don't open up about intimate aspects of their life or have deep conversations with you. It's mostly surface-level or sensual conversations.
5. Your partner always wants to be in control of the relationship.
You don't have a voice in the relationship. They don't value your opinions or make you feel like an equal partner. This shows that they see you as an object rather than acknowledging the person beneath the surface.
6. You don’t really find any resolutions to your fights.
If your partner walks away from fights and shows no interest in resolving issues, it indicates a lack of emotional investment in the relationship.
Pay attention to these signs to determine if your relationship is built on love or lust. It's important to be aware and make decisions that align with your long-term happiness and well-being.
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