Isn't it odd that almost every psychological article you see on the internet has pictures mostly of women? Now, not everything is solely about women and their fears. There are many instances in relationships when the woman is the strong one and the man is the drama queen. This isn't to undermine men but to put things in perspective. Just as women have their fears, so do men. Throughout the ages, society has fixed a stereotype on men as the embodiment of strength without the possibility of harboring issues. Well, that's simply not true, and here are the 15 things that worry most men.
1. Body image
Women have been made conscious about their figures from a young age and are encouraged to look after their bodies through diets and healthier lifestyles. Generally speaking, men don't usually face such issues, but it doesn't mean that men aren't concerned about their bodies. Men are also conscious of their bodies and often make comparisons with the well-toned models they see in men's magazines. This is why men visit gyms, get their chests waxed, and try to tuck in their tummies when a woman is around. Perhaps a man's biggest fear is that stubborn protruding belly that just won't go away.
Let's face it. Money makes the world go round, and men often worry about money. Being projected with the thought that they are the family breadwinner, any responsible man will always worry about his financial situation, even if he doesn't have a family. While care, love, and attention are important for a woman, a man's subconscious thought will always revolve around money to provide for his partner.
Which man does not worry about his height if he considers himself short? The ideal image of a man includes "being tall." From time immemorial, the phrase describing an ideal woman's dream man in romance novels is "tall, dark, and handsome." Now, how does it sound when you say "short, dark, and handsome"? Doesn't quite match, does it? Refute this or not, size matters to a man.
4. Seeing other men as a threat
Men can be jealous, although it may not be as obvious as with women. Men see other men in their partner's lives as potential threats. It is an affront to their own self-esteem, and even though your partner may not show signs of anxiety when you speak to him about a male colleague, inside, the comparisons are already happening. You'll have to do your best to show him that he's number one in your life.
5. Poor relationship experience
Seriously speaking, men are afraid of projecting themselves as macho figures because it makes them appear as if they are experienced in relationships. In truth, men are just as afraid of messing up in a relationship as women are. Insecurity and the fear of saying or doing the wrong things can plague a man when he has a new girlfriend until late at night. It is care, understanding, and compromise that make a relationship safe and keep each other confident.
6. Hair issues
Many men have concerns about their hair and even fear going bald. Even hair on the body might be an issue; is it too much or too little? Not everyone likes looking like Kojak or Yul Brynner. Moreover, men often worry about their hairstyles if they are too messy or too neat or if it isn't masculine enough. Graying of hair is another issue that frightens men because it means either accepting it and looking older or going through the ordeal of coloring their hair.
7. Diet - Yes, men care about their food
It is often the case with women to hear them say, "I'm on a diet." However, just because you don't hear a man saying it doesn't mean he isn't conscious of what he eats. Today, more and more men are taking care of their looks and bodies and paying attention to the food they eat. Men also like being healthy, although they may not talk about it as much.
8. Their relationship with their partners
There are loads of articles written about relationship issues from a woman's perspective. But don't, for once, think that men are too brutal to care about how a relationship is going. Sometimes, a man may put his foot in his mouth and say the wrong thing, but he will end up cursing himself for doing so. The truth is, men care deeply about their partners and fear messing up a relationship. The problem is that they are less prone to speaking about it.
9. Partner's past relationships
Men are often plagued with self-esteem and ego issues. If a woman has had previous partners before her current boyfriend, the man may take it as a sign of competition that he needs to show he is better than all of them. The other issue is that a man fears being less experienced than the woman, which somewhat tarnishes his own sense of manliness. But as a man, I would say relax! Because the truth is, when you have a good woman who loves you, she won't make comparisons and couldn't care less about your past experiences as long as you care for and love her too. After all, the past is the past.
10. Expression of emotions
How many men have heard this told to them when they were young? "Don't cry! You are a man!" This is somewhat ingrained in a man's psyche from a young age, which is why a man is often scared of expressing emotions openly. It is wrong for a parent to cultivate such a notion in any child because it leads to issues and pent-up frustrations. A man will never be less of a man if he cries or expresses his feelings. Expression of emotions is never a sign of weakness.
11. They fear not being a man
For all the women out there, how many times have you stood amused over your man lying below the kitchen sink trying to fix it even though he can't? Well, for many men, such things are seen as a sign of being a man, and if they can't do it, it may cause a sense of inadequacy which is actually a false notion. If you can't repair her hairdryer, it doesn't make you any less of a man. Remember, a partner chooses you not because she wants a handyman around the house, but because she wants you to care for her, not just her objects.
12.Scared of going to a doctor for certain checkups
Believe it or not, this is called white coat syndrome, where quite a few men dislike having a doctor examine their sensitive areas or going for checkups related to conditions like hemorrhoids or prostate problems. As much as they can, they will try to treat the problem themselves until there is no other option but to see a doctor. But even then, there is still some reluctance. This is another reason why a magazine like Men's Health has many subscribers because men can easily read about symptoms without having to expose themselves.
Men thrive on feeling relevant. Whether it's doing work around the house, being the provider for the family, or being a shoulder for his wife or partner to lean on, men find fulfillment in being needed. But if a man feels insignificant, like he is only seen as a monthly paycheck, it can deeply wound him. Unhappy partners make for unhappy relationships.
As strange as it sounds, men are actually terrified of disappointing or letting their women down. They worry about making mistakes, saying things that may anger their partners, or forgetting to do something they were asked to do. Disappointment leads to feelings of irrelevance and rejection. Despite the privilege and power men may hold in the world, at home, it is often the women who exert influence through affirmation and intimacy. As much as this may provoke argument and debate, it's important to acknowledge that when a man seeks intimacy and is rejected because of something he did, it's something that deeply affects and fears him.
Finally, there's the fear of rejection. When a man is rejected for someone else, it is an affront to his ego and the male psyche, which society often stereotypes. Men can handle rejection, but they find it hard to believe that a woman would choose someone else over them. This fear of rejection isn't exclusive to men, but when a man hears "no" in any situation, it's difficult for him to accept it. Of course, every emotionally healthy man will eventually overcome such situations, but the initial rejection is a deep wound that takes time to heal.
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